I’m not even officially divorced yet and I’ve had two separate offers from (supposedly happily) married men to become their “secret” friend. Why they think anyone would go through the headache and heartache of divorce just to end up as somebody’s secret is beyond me. But this rolls around in my mind every time another one of my married girlfriends offers her sympathies, a big sincere hug, eyes full of pity. “How sad!” they all say. But it isn’t, I want to answer. I know of at least two women who have it much, much worse.